As human beings we are programmed to need other human beings. We function best in groups or families, and it is not usually good for us to be alone, in the true sense of the word, for any prolonged length of time. The truth is that we are hard-wired to be part of a tribe, or “herd” so that we have the best chance of survival. It is also true that many of us struggle to form, and keep, lasting bonds with just one other person. If this sounds familiar to you, you may find some comfort in realizing that your “relationships” are not confined to the monogamous norm our society has imposed on us in fairly recent times.
Take a moment to note down all of the different relationships you value in your life. Clubs and societies, work colleagues and friends, older and younger family members, your local community, the people who share your particular interest in something, the possibilities are truly endless!
However, when you know that you need or want to work on a particular aspect of the way you relate to others, harnessing the power of different crystals can be a great help.
Crystals for Sexual Energy
Sexual energy can manifest itself in many different ways. For some, it flares like a volcano and subsides quickly; for others it acts more like a slow burning fuse; yet others find that it waxes and wanes just like the moon; at times it seems to be all-important, at others it is merely incidental.
When you want to boost your libido, Yellow Jasper is the stone for you. This variety of Jasper has a higher, faster vibration than the more mellow resonance of Green or Red Jasper and it is said to boost physical energy and sexual drive. It is also said to improve stamina and maximiser physical performance. Yellow Jasper is also believed to strengthen self-confidence and help us to feel more at home with our sexuality, making us feel comfortable in ourselves and desirable to others.
If you struggle to express your sexuality, for whatever reason, Smoky Quartz may well be the answer you seek. It is said to have to have the ability to re-introduce us to our sexual nature and to help those who feel that their sex drive, or libido is low.
Smoky Quartz teaches us that sexuality is an integral part of being human, and that allowing ourselves to feel, and experience, sensual pleasure, is important for our well-being. It shows us that we are not separate from our needs, and that our sexuality is aligned with our spirituality, not apart from it.
Crystals for Communication
Effective communication is at the heart of all inter-human relationships, but very often it goes awry, leading to misunderstandings and hurt or heartbreak. It is not enough, when someone says you have hurt them to simply say “I didn’t mean to” and expect the situation to resolve itself.
Speaking with clarity and integrity is vital in all walks of life, and effective communicators are at a distinct advantage in every way.
Most blue stones are closely aligned with the Throat chakra, the “voice of the body” and the center of our verbal communication with the world. Lapis Lazuli also resonates with he Third Eye, allowing your natural insight and wisdom to inform your communication with others. It can be used to gently open and clear the Throat chakra so that you can speak your truth with clarity and without fear.
Blue Lace Agate
Blue Lace Agate is a delicate, pale blue, often with veins of creamy white running through it. It has a much gentler effect than Lapis Lazuli and you may want to wear a necklace of these beautiful stones to allow your Throat chakra to remain clear balanced all day. With the help of Blue Lace Agate your communications will be delivered with compassion and love, but will be no less clear and authentic for that.
Crystals for Love and Romance
To call Love to you there are a wide variety of crystals to choose from. Rose Quartz is an obvious choice for anything love related, although many other crystals can be just as effective if is romantic love you are seeking.
As well as having the reputation for being a stone of abundance, Pink tourmaline is said to actively attract romantic love to you, if you ask it to. To program your stone in this way hold it in your hand and allow yourself to relax. Feel the vibrations of the crystal and allow it to pick up on your own aura or energy field. When you are “in tune” with the stone, firmly state your desires and wishes regarding love, romance, and relationships. Use only positive affirmations and speak using the present tense.
Pink tourmaline has your best interests at heart and will always grant you the comfort you need when it comes to matters of the heart. It invites your Heart chakra to open in a safe space and calms any fears you may have about a new relationship.
This crystal, in soft, delicate shades of pink, is a stone of deep love, true commitment and inner peace. It is said to attract the perfect partners to one another and to keep them loyal and faithful for as long as is right and necessary for both parties. It is believed to hold a deep spiritual wisdom that never leads you astray. Kunzite is perfect for restoring trust after times of heartbreak and helps to build wonderful relationships between like-minded individuals.
Rose quartz is the perfect stone for those looking to attract love or improve their existing relationships. This pink-hued crystal is associated with the heart chakra, making it a powerful tool for promoting love and compassion. Rose quartz can also help to dissolve negative emotions such as anger and resentment. If you're single, carrying a piece of rose quartz with you can help to attract new love into your life. For couples, keeping rose quartz in your home can help to keep the romance alive. No matter your relationship status, rose quartz is a great way to promote positive vibrations of love.
If you’re looking to attract love into your life, or improve an existing relationship then these gemstones are a good fit for you. Wearing a necklace or bracelet of these beautiful stones may help keep your throat chakra clear and balanced all day long. Do you have any experience working with gemstones for love and relationships? Share your thoughts in the comments below!